Personal conflicts are inevitable; it’s part of the reality so no one would believe if someone says he/she didn’t experience having those, that someone isn’t human anymore, right? Now, some people know how to handle their own personal conflicts but, some of the people experiencing it don’t have any idea on how to resolve it. Why? Simply because they just don’t know what to do. It’s either they are hesitating whether to follow this one or that one, it’s hard to choose, just like how we let someone choose between the two of his/her most favorite food, games, movies and novels. Some chose to solve their intrapersonal conflicts by doing the things which could only worsen their situation. Some intrapersonal conflicts are minor, easy to handle or can be overlooked. But some require a carefully thought out strategy for successful resolution. So, the question is how to handle situations when there is a battle within you? Well, below are some of the effective strategies on resolving personal conflicts.

Deal with it. Accepting the truth that sometimes going through with personal conflicts are unavoidable. Deciding not to mind them even when you’re hesitant could create or result to another conflict, and could affect the people which are involved and the reason why you’re having battles with your conscience. You have to deal with it in order for you not to be stuck with your conflict. Example is, when you needed to choose between this side or that side, but you chose not to mind it and think that it’s not that important and because of that, you would only be in a situation which is worse than you thought it would be.

Think it through. Deciding and choosing without thinking what might happen could affect you and the people that surrounds you. Having a moment to think about the action or decision that you need to make. You need to foresee things and analyze if what would happen if you go with this decision or the other one. You had to think of a way on what you should do in order for your personal conflict to be resolved. For example is thinking and reading books which are related to dealing with and facing your personal conflicts.

Seek advice. Well yes, it’s true that you’re the only one who could best solve your personal conflict, but asking someone to help you isn’t bad right? Sharing it to someone whom you’re comfortable with is best, especially when that someone knows you too well. They could give you some advice which could be the best thing that you should do or decide, base on how they know and think of you. Example of this strategy is when you don’t have any idea on what to do, and your personal conflict keeps on getting on your way and seems to bother you a lot, ask your best friend, parents or your siblings to help you out, and maybe they can give you some advice which you can use and you can get some idea with.

Know your priorities. It’s one of those days when you’re having an argument with yourself because your friends invited you to hangout with them, but because you’re not lucky enough and fate isn’t that good to you, it happened while you needed to study for your quarter exam. Now, I must admit it and every teenager must admit it, if we’re in that position, we prefer to be with our friends rather than studying right? But well, nobody would want to repeat school. Your body wants to go, but your mind doesn’t want you to. Among your friends and your studies, isn’t it too obvious which one should be prioritized? Priorities are important in order for you not to regret it at the end. Set aside the things which are less important, and go with the ones who could lead you to be a better one.

                    Personal conflicts can’t be avoided, but it can be resolved. Although avoidance seems like the easy way out. Facing your conscience and thinking about what you should do and what should you choose whenever you’re in such situation.